The ‘mommy track’

I’m not sure exactly what to say about this story that crossed the Associated Press a few minutes ago. Plus, it’s a minefield. The story? Women being laid off are getting to know their kids better.

Lucas and other laid-off women like her are involuntarily experiencing the life of a stay-at-home mom, and they are getting to know a lot more about the details of their children’s daily existence. They are also discovering some of the things they have

been missing.

Couldn’t the same be said of men getting laid off?

  • Ben

    Or of men (or women) who have finished a degree but still haven’t landed a job? Yes.

  • Jennifer

    For God’s Sake, Yes. I could NOT be more tired of this non-news meme. NEXT ISSUE!

  • Couldn’t the same be said of men getting laid off?

    Haven’t you listened to Ellen Anderson? Only women have children. Sheesh.

    OK, seriously. In 2003, when I was out of work much of the year and doing subsistence contracting the rest of the time, I DID get to spend a lot more time with the kids. It was a good thing in a lot of ways…

    …although it’d have been better had I had a spouse helping to pay the bills. The quality time and the extra stress sorta offset each other.

  • Bob Collins

    Don’t get me started on my pet peeve when my kids were quite young and I’d be out with them and people would say, “Oh, are you babysitting today?”

  • Anna

    I am one of those laid-off Moms, and I don’t know how many times people have asked if I’m enjoying my extra time with my daughter. I don’t see her any more or less now than I did when I was working – we still have the resources to keep our daughter in preschool so that I have my days to myself to concentrate on looking for work, which would be difficult at best with a four-year-old here to entertain, feed, pay attention to, etc. Sure I’d love to have her here, but I wouldn’t get a thing done. Maybe it’d be different if she were 10 or 12, and more self-sufficient.

    I seriously doubt that my male friends who have been laid off get asked about their extra time with the kids – it seems that we just can’t get away from the assumption that only Moms want to spend (extra) time with their kids or do any care giving, regardless of what is happening in the real world.

    (Don’t get me started about parents who don’t know the basic rules of the play room at their condo or who aren’t recognized at their kids’ doctors office – like one of the women in the article – perhaps she/he want to reassess that whole work/life balance thing regardless of layoff…shouldn’t take a layoff to have enough time with your kid to know that much.)

  • Phil Lundquist

    Hooray for calling people out on gender role stereotyping!

  • Joanna

    Shorter AP story: “Moms, have you felt guilty enough lately?”

  • Tyler Suter

    Haven’t you listened to Ellen Anderson? Only women have children. Sheesh.