Perhaps this is a condition of the aged, but I suspect people of a certain age tend to struggle trying to mute an inner voice when reading column’s like Patrick Reusse’s tribute to a sportswriter in Sunday’s Star Tribune. The voice that asks, “when I’m gone, will anyone remember that I was here?”

I thought of Joe Resnick, a sportswriter who resigned himself to dying alone when he got cancer in 2016. He didn’t think he was a big enough deal that people should notice.

People noticed.

I heard from friends from college who I hadn’t heard from in 43 years. One — our mutual best friend back in the day — called Joe to read him the column.

About a week later, Joe died, leaving behind a world that still remembers him.

(Originally published November 11, 2016)

I haven’t seen this guy since 1976, the day we graduated from Emerson College in Boston.

He’s Joe Resnick, a kid from Brooklyn and, like most of us who palled around together at Emerson, he wanted to be a broadcaster or sportswriter and a fair number of us went on to do just that.

It was a relatively small crew of would-be journalists who were big sports fans at the school. We played Strat-O-Matic, went to Red Sox games at Fenway Park and played street hockey in the dorm or apartment — Joe was a New York Rangers fan, as I recall, for it seemed he always had a Rangers jersey on , before wearing hockey jerseys was cool — and we practiced our writing and learned not to be afraid of microphones and which camera to look into at a campus radio station or TV station that nobody watched or listened to, and eventually we graduated and went our separate ways.

Some of us kept in touch; some of us didn’t. There was a future to get on with. There’d always be time for the past some other time in the future.

I’d heard over the years that Joe went off to the Associated Press and was writing about sports.

I’m at the time of my life where, more often than not, I learn what happened to some of those old classmates when I hear that they’ve died or are dying.

Joe, who became a bigshot in the sports writing world as a freelancer, is dying.

I learned whatever happened to him in a wonderful tribute to him today in the Los Angeles Times, which noted that millions of you have read his words, but few recognized him. His byline rarely appeared, another reason why a lot of people never knew whatever happened to him.

Joe Resnick GoFundMe page

He’s got Stage IV colon cancer now and when I read the story in the Times and looked at the picture, I had no idea I was looking at that Joe Resnick — my Joe Resnick.

Until I looked at his eyes. When the rest of us withers, our eyes always stay the same. Joe’s eyes always had a sadness to them with just the right amount of mischief.

Lori Shepler

He stopped showing up at the ballpark and he resigned himself to die alone in his apartment, apparently believing that people had forgotten him. He’d lost 100 pounds. He was too weak to answer the door when some people stopped by, Los Angeles Times columnist Bill Plaschke writes today. It was a small group of sportswriters, photographers, and other journalists.

They learned he was crushed by medical bills, and so they set up a GoFundMe page to help.

The anonymous sportswriter thought nobody was watching, but it turns out everybody was watching, admiring his work ethic, marveling at his persistence. The man with no byline had indelibly etched his name in the minds of those who watched him carve a lifetime out of simply showing up and doing his job.

The fund’s goal was $20,000 and it reached that figure in a few days, with contributions from sports executives to players to countless journalists. Donations ranged from $10 to $1,000. Love showed up in everything from personal calls from Vin Scully and Mike Scioscia and a voicemail from Doc Rivers, to countless texts from other sports figures. The fund is now at $22,250 and growing.

“He was taken aback, he had no idea people cared so much about him,” said Shepler. “He would go through the list of contributors every day not to see the money, but to see the names, he couldn’t believe so many people remembered.”

Dilbeck and Times staffer Dylan Hernandez came up with the idea of giving Resnick the BBWAA’s annual Bob Hunter Award for meritorious coverage even though he wasn’t a member. Within hours, the 50-person membership approved the honor. Within days, the plaque was engraved, and last week, 11 of Resnick’s friends surprised him with an impromptu ceremony around the hospital bed in the middle of his living room, where he is receiving hospice care.

The moment Resnick saw the plaque he began weeping. He held the thick wood memento close to his face and kissed it. He then pulled out an official BBWAA cap and jacket he had been saving all of his professional life, maybe just for this moment.

“Today is the first day I belong,” he whispered.

He began crying again, and soon everyone around him was red-eyed with the reminder that things many take for granted — a sense of permanence, a sense of place — were gifts to be honored and cherished. In opening eyes and hearts to these truths during his three decades in the shadows, the anonymous sportswriter had actually been writing the story of his career.

“This is the best day of my life,” Joe Resnick whispered, solitary no more, remembered forever.

Every office has a Joe Resnick, Plaschke writes.

“He’s the part-timer who shows up for work in an isolated corner desk every day, occasionally gruff, sometimes grumpy, but always there. He arrives earlier than the boss who barely knows him, stays later than the summer interns who are paid more, has statistics on everything and everybody. He’s the employee everyone actually thinks is full time until he admits he doesn’t have insurance,” he said.

He’s the guy we let slip into the past and wonder whatever became of. He’s the guy who makes us ashamed that we’d failed to be the friends we said we were.

He’s the guy who reminds us that we can always be better people than we presently think we are.

It’s Memorial Day weekend, the annual tradition in which sports teams and businesses can cash in on the sacrifice of soldiers.

Unlike recent years, Major League Baseball isn’t going to trot out special Memorial Day camoflauge uniforms this year. It’s going with poppy patches instead.

Nick Francona, the son of Cleveland Indians manager Terry Francona, says he put together a document when he worked for some Major League Baseball teams on how this could be done the right way: stop making it so obvious you’re just trying to sell stuff. Like this:

Francona, whose bona fides include a tour in Afghanistan as a marine, tells Uni Watch’s Paul Lukas it’s patently offensive to the military. Or should be.

It’s like, really? That is so tone-deaf. I mean, that is just patently offensive, to suggest that that’s even approaching anything like a dignified way to memorialize people. And now it’s not just camouflage caps and jerseys — you have the camouflage eye black, the cleats, the socks, the arm sleeves. It’s turning into dress-up at Halloween. And what you don’t see, through any of this, is any acknowledgment of “This is so-and-so who died. This is their name and their story.” These are real people who died, they have families left behind. And when you actually talk to the families, they care about their lost loved ones’ stories and keeping their names alive. They don’t care about camouflage.

And it’s not just the camo itself — it’s how it’s presented. When you have to really dig and find the fine print that says they’re donating the proceeds — and even then, the fine print is basically “Take our word for it, we’re donating to charity” — that’s problematic. Nobody would look at that and say it looks like a benevolent charitable campaign.

How much of the cost of a jersey or hat actually goes to a charity benefitting the military and its veterans? Major League Baseball won’t say, Francona says.

It might well be they don’t know where the money goes.

“From the best I can tell, for a while it was being done through the McCormick Foundation, which had a program called Welcome Back Veterans,” he said. “But when I started digging into it, what I found is that Welcome Back Veterans is basically a phrase and a program, but there’s no entity, no organization, no board — nothing by that name. And I asked MLB, “Who’s in charge of this? Who runs Wecome Back Veterans?” And they had no earthly idea, because there isn’t anyone in charge. It’s not a registered entity — it’s just a tag line.”

How could this be done better?

Be transparent about where the money goes. And have it go to charities that plainly exist.

One that I particularly like is the Travis Manion Foundation. The guy it’s named after, Travis Manion, was a Marine lieutenant who was killed in Iraq. And one of the things they do is help veterans participate and play meaningful roles in their communities, and really bridge the gap between the military and civilians. And one thing I love about them is that it’s not limited to veterans — civilians can go join that as well. That gets to the bigger picture of what I think is missing in a lot of this discussion, creating that bridge between the military and society. Like, instead of supporting our troops by buying a hat, how about if we support them by being educated voters on the issues that affect them.

Francona, for the record, isn’t buying the notion that Major League Baseball has turned the corner from profiting off dead soldiers.

“It’s definitely a step in the right direction. But to me it’s nakedly transparent that they wouldn’t have made this change if they hadn’t come up with this other holiday, Armed Forces Day, that lets them sell camo stuff,” he tells Lukas. “So I don’t think the folks at MLB sat down and said, ‘How do we appropriately celebrate Memorial Day?’ I think it was more like, ‘How do we sell camouflage hats and get away with it, now that we’ve been criticized for how we handle Memorial Day?’”

Here’s your daily dose of sweetness:

Shannon McCarthy’s family and friends aren’t too proud to beg.

Shannon, of Stoughton, Mass., has breast cancer and recently doctors found a mass on her pancreas and she really shouldn’t waste any time having surgery to remove it.

But the Boston Bruins are playing for the Stanley Cup and, somehow, she convinced her surgeon at Mass General Hospital to wait until after the playoff series is over.

“I met with my surgeon who was not happy with me but I explained to him it cannot be until the Stanley Cup was over,” McCarthy told WBZ. “I was like, I can’t. It’s the playoffs, then the Cup, then the parade, and then I’ll be in.”

Her family and friends have been campaigning in the media on Facebook not only to get her tickets to the game, but also to wave the Bruins flag before the game starts.

“That would mean the world,” Hannah, her daughter, said. “She’s probably the most deserving person, she might be the craziest Bruins fan I’ve ever met but I think she could really fire that team up.”

When she went to get a cup of morning joe today, a giant iced coffee gave her the world.

Posted by Hannah Carpenter on Friday, May 24, 2019

“This is how I’m getting through every day. Support and the Bruins,” McCarthy said. “I’m going!”

No word on whether she’ll fly the flag.

(h/t: Paul Tosto)