A letter written by a Princeton alumna, Susan A. Patton, to the school’s student paper says women college students should worry less about Sheryl Sandberg’s advice, the glass ceiling, and life-work balance. What they should worry about is getting an Ivy League man to put a ring on it.
For most of you, the cornerstone of your future and happiness will be inextricably linked to the man you marry, and you will never again have this concentration of men who are worthy of you.
Here’s what nobody is telling you: Find a husband on campus before you graduate. Yes, I went there.
After “going there,” she moved on to tell the 22-year-old seniors that it may be too late to lock in a Princeton man.
Here is another truth that you know, but nobody is talking about. As freshman women, you have four classes of men to choose from. Every year, you lose the men in the senior class, and you become older than the class of incoming freshman men. So, by the time you are a senior, you basically have only the men in your own class to choose from, and frankly, they now have four classes of women to choose from. Maybe you should have been a little nicer to these guys when you were freshmen?
The letter has gotten a lot of attention and we can’t resist talking about it, either. Is Susan Patton onto something? Are only Princeton men worthy of Princeton women? Do the age biases that she describes still hold true?
(Brides hold their roses during a group Valentine’s day wedding at the National Croquet Center on February 14, 2012 in West Palm Beach, Florida. The group wedding ceremony is put on by the Palm Beach Country Clerk & Comptroller’s office. Last year, 30 couples tied the knot. Photo by Joe Raedle/Getty Images)