The pressure of the marriage proposal

Young men are under tremendous (self-imposed) pressure these days to propose to their girlfriends in ever-impressive ways.

On the Jumbotron at Target Field? Yawn.

This week, a man in South Africa raised the bar, and made life difficult for the husbands of tomorrow. Apparently, they need more than love.

  • Jim Shapiro

    Is anyone researching whether flash mob behavior was initiated by the Borg in Star Trek?

    “Each Borg individual, or drone, is linked to the collective by a sophisticated subspace network that ensures each member is given constant supervision and guidance. The collective is broadcast over a subspace domain similar to that utilized by the transporter. The collective consciousness not only gives them the ability to “share the same thoughts”, but also to adapt with great speed to defensive tactics used against them.”

  • Susan

    In these examples, I always wonder what happens if she says no.

  • Jeff

    And to think that I thought I was clever when I put the letters M-A-R-R-Y-M-E on her Scabble-letter tray as we were setting up to play a game…

  • Jim Shapiro

    Jeff – That WAS extremely clever. Let’s hope neither of you ever feels the need to sneak in D-I-V-O-R-C-E 🙂

  • Cara

    I saw another video of a flash mob marriage proposal that was far more elaborate (indoors, outdoors, fake waiters etc) but not nearly as charming as this one.

  • Patrick S.

    Proposals and weddings have both gotten ridiculous. A proposal should be a memorable moment for you and your future spouse to share, not a gauge for how much your love them or a testament to how attention starved you or they may be. A wedding is a legal (and often religious) event, and young people who put themselves in debt ($10k ring AND $10k wedding? Why not!) only to get divorced more than half the time are ridiculous.

    I’m a Gen Yer, but this is admittedly one (and I can count such instances on one hand) place where the boomers aren’t as bad as their kids.

  • Jeff

    11 years this past June!

    She still beats me in Scrabble every time.

  • Jim Shapiro

    Jeff – “She still beats me in Scrabble every time.”

    Well done.You appear to have discovered one of the secrets to prolonged wedded bliss. 🙂

  • Jamie

    I’m with Patrick (except for the unwarranted Boomer-bashing). These kinds of public marriage proposals are either creepy or stupid or sad cries for attention, not to mention that they’re generally sexist and controlling. Even the private ones in which it seems more important to these guys to be (what they believe is) clever than it is to discuss getting married, are not what we should be encouraging.

    This is not the 1950s! Either or both adults can bring up a discussion of marriage in a very romantic way without all the stupid tricks and surprises.

  • Jamie

    That guy looks like he just got off the bus from Las Vegas. Yuck.

  • Suzanne

    I’m with Patrick and Jamie – anybody who needs an audience is starved for attention and kind of creepy.

  • gml4

    Wow… there are a lot of wedding proposal snobs here!

    I think it’s fun. What a great way for a guy to show how much he cares for someone. Better than wasting a bunch of money on a rock some poor kid in Africa dug up for his master.

  • lucy

    yah, if I were bride to be I would have ran and hid in the bathroom until it was safe to come out.

  • Tyler

    I popped the question to my wife at her 29+1 birthday party, in front of 40 friends and family. No embarrassment, no showmanship, only fun and happiness.

    Oh, and surprise. She was surprised.