Poll: Do 20-somethings need to grow up?

Clinical psychologist Dr. Meg Jay joins us tomorrow at 10 a.m. to talk about her new book “The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter — and How to Make the Most of Them Now.” She said in USA Today, people in their twenties “need to learn how to be more future-oriented. If you ever want to change something about yourself, your 20s are your best shot.”

In short, she says that the slower path to adulthood is not better.

What do you think?

If you are past your twenties, do you feel like you took full advantage of that decade? If you are in your twenties, do you feel like an adult and feel that others treat you like one?

  • Leah

    Well, you certainly talk about them like they’re children.

  • Brandon

    I just turned 30 this past April. My 20s were exciting years. I earned two degrees, got married, spent time working abroad, and tried out different jobs. Now I’m 30, settled and looking forward to hopefully having a more stable career and starting a family.

  • Matt

    I skipped college and worked, traveled, helped friends homestead, and was very politically active in my early twenties. I went back to college in my late twenties, and got married last year. I have few regrets – other than not traveling more. I learned a LOT more about real life working and traveling than I did in college – and conversely did better in college once I went back. Also, I avoided unnecessary college debt. Now I own my own business.

    I’d advise young people to experience life broadly before getting on the college-career-family treadmill. This doesn’t mean slacking – it means getting a working hard to broaden your experience while you still can.

  • Jeff Griffin

    In my opinion, your twenties sets the level that you are starting an independent life from but has little to do with where you end up in life — it simply changes the slope and shape of your life’s trajectory.

    Life is a process of continuous personal change (and hopefully improvement). It is not determined by one decade.

  • Matt

    I moved out shortly before my twenty first birthday and began working. I’d spent two years in a community college and, I think, instinctively knew that it was time for me to leave the nest. I am nearly twenty four, now. I feel that I benefited from having a defined breaking point from living at home. In my opinion the first choice of this poll is harshly worded, but I selected it anyway because I think that our culture lacks a good sense of age-coming, allowing adolescence to continue into the late twenties. I knew in no uncertain terms that after I moved out I would not be returning to the state of being, for lack of a better term, cared for.

  • Matt

    My mistake- I was referring to and selected the “Yes” answer.

  • http://www.sallykoslow.com Sally Koslow

    Since people in their 50’s, 60’s don’t want to think of themselves as–or act–old, then by default, people in their 20’s sustain the illusion of being very young. This became increasingly clear as I researched my forthcoming book, Slouching Toward Adulthoo: Observations from the Not-So-Empty Nest, which Viking publishes on June 16th. If Baby Boomers are still young, their “adultescent” kids must be tots.

  • Ron

    Some in their 20s are childish, but I suspect in similar proportion to those in their 30s, 40s, 50s and 60s. And like the other ages, some in their 20s are brilliant, fun and driven.

    As I hit 50, I am encouraged by those I know in their 20s to take my children’s world in a better direction than my generation (and those damn, selfish boomers) have.